Step 329: If someone is waiting on something they *really* want that is out of their control, don’t constantly ask them if it’s happened yet
Is your friend …
• Unemployed and searching for a job?
• Wanting to find the right someone but hasn’t?
• Trying to get pregnant and having a hard time with it?
• Waiting to hear back from that dream grad school program?
When the thing they have desperately been waiting for happens, they will tell you. Peppering them with questions and/or unsolicited advice on how they can better achieve this life goal is probably not what they’re looking for.
Instead, it’s just depressing to have to vocalize, again and again, that no, the thing they want has not yet happened, and then have to sit patiently while the other person tells them to keep their chin up, or that the right one is coming, or whatever.
It’s great to ask, more generally, how everything is with them. If they want to cry on your shoulder or share great news, they will.